So, when you really think about it, you will recognize that thoughts come to you in a pretty random way. They appear seemingly out of nowhere, and only stick around in your head if you ruminate upon them.
As a wise person recently pointed out to me, think of your thoughts as neither good nor bad, but rather as useful or harmful. You know when you see a picture of yourself that is framed somewhere in your home? Sometimes, you look at the picture and decide, “I look awesome in this picture!” Other times, you think you look fat. The picture hasn’t changed–your thoughts about it have, though.
Thoughts are basically random and only have “meaning” if we assign meaning to them. When you are depressed, you don’t have to give negative thoughts any power. Simply acknowledge they are there, and learn to let them pass. Thoughts can really pass through your mind just like clouds in the sky, if you let them.
Let’s all learn how to focus on the positive thoughts we have because they are helpful in our journey towards a happier mind. When you are depressed, sometimes doing anything positive simply seems undoable. But our thoughts lead to feelings, both fleeting if we let them be that way. You can regain control of your own mind when you choose which thoughts you give your attention to.
Don’t remain stuck because you allow your depression to “paint it black,” as Mick Jagger famously sang. You, too, can build a real foundation when you are paying attention to the bricks and mortar (your thoughts) that you are using to build the mansion or hovel of your mental outlook!
You can practice focusing on the useful thoughts that appear in your mind and let the harmful ones pass!
Wishing you peace on your journey,
Marie K Johnston/Kristen M McCurry